- Do you have workers whose ongoing conflict is draining the energy of all about them?
- Have you found yourself shocked by a partner or colleague’s behaviour? You’ve tried to resolve the matter and the discussions seem to make it worse…?
- When working with a colleague, manager or senior, do you find yourself amazed that ‘they don’t know how to listen’?
Mediation creates an opportunity for those in dispute to have an important, if difficult, conversation. The aim being to resolve matters to everyone’s satisfaction. It encourages the airing of all perspectives, supporting the concept that problems arise as a result of a communication breakdown – no one person is right or wrong – all viewpoints are equally valid.
A neutral third party – the mediator – supports each person involved with the aim of finding solutions that work and leave everyone with their dignity intact. It’s not about compromise, it’s about understanding and communication.
I have extensive experience in many sectors, over the last fifteen years, mediating conflicts large and small to successful outcomes. Call to discuss in confidence: 07960 371574
How Does Mediation Work?
What is discussed in any mediation call or meeting is confidential. This gives individuals a chance to find out all about what they are signing up to, before going any further. It is necessary to ensure each person feels confident to speak openly, in order to communicate their needs, feelings and concerns, build trust in the mediator, and to consider the options of moving forward to talk to the other person(s).
The Stages of Mediation
1. Initial meetings with each person
2. Joint mediation meeting
3. After the face-to-face meeting
1. Initial meetings with each person: a preliminary and confidential meeting for each person separately with the mediator will be arranged so that they can describe the situation from their point of view, think clearly about ways of moving the situation forward and get to know more about how mediation works and the benefits of using mediation to find a settlement.
At the initial meeting, each person is asked to talk in detail about:
- their perspective of what has been going on and what’s brought them to mediation
- how they are affected by what is happening on a professional and personal level
- what they would like to achieve or happen as a result of the mediation process,
2. Joint mediation meeting: a face-to-face meeting with everybody present will then be held which has three key stages;
- Outlining your perspective Hearing each person’s perspective on the situation: each will talk for c 10mins with the other listening and not interrupting for any discussion at this point. The mediator offers a summary of what each person has said. This works to allow each to hear the other through a neutral voice and to digest the information more easily.
- Discussing the issues – Being clear what the important issues are between the parties. Time to discuss and disagree, check facts, comparing views of the problem. Hear new information that has not had any discussion to date. Expressing long held and difficult feelings. Starting to see and possibly acknowledge the other’s point of view.
- Exploring ways forward and any agreements: Exploring what people want and what can be done about the situation, working through differences, managing conflict, problem solving, preparing for decisions. Testing likely outcomes, describing in detail what will happen next, future arrangements, what if something goes wrong?
Then: Closure and follow-up – Evaluating the session and ending the session, agreeing plans for future contact between the mediators and the people concerned, as needed.
3. After the face-to-face meeting: the parties leave with an action plan; verbal or written agreements made during their mediation. There may be a follow up call to see how the situation has progressed. Sometimes people arrange a second meeting to enable them to complete discussion of areas not covered in the initial mediation meeting.
After the process has concluded some people like to book a short follow up session, to ‘check in’ about a month after the joint meeting. This can support the changes that each has made and affirm their new way of relating and working together.
Important: mediation is confidential. Notes will be destroyed, the other parties personal disclosures and responses made in mediation cannot be used in court or in later internal procedures.
Call in confidence: Maggie 07960 371574
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